Self-love stands as a cornerstone of personal well-being and growth, yet it remains elusive for many individuals. In a world that often prioritises external validation and perfectionism, fostering self-love necessitates deliberate shifts in mindset.
The first step, according to Khyati Kanji, a psychologist and art therapist, is to differentiate between self-love for selfishness. “I have come across various people who mistake self-love for selfishness. While selfishness stems from an intent to be inconsiderate, the intent in self-love is to nurture ourselves without causing harm or loss to others.”
Another misconception, Kanji said is the idea that “self-love only means showering oneself with gifts and indulging in all things we love.” “While that is one way of giving to ourselves, self-love can also involve engaging in activities that we may not like or find comfortable but know will benefit us in the long run.”
For instance, working out, going for therapy, focusing on self-growth, regular health check-ups, me-time, and maintaining emotional boundaries to preserve our peace of mind, are steps to practice self-love, as per Kanji.
To go a step further, therapist Israa Nasir took to Instagram to share seven “positive mindset shifts that encourage a more compassionate and accepting view of oneself.”
1. Embrace imperfection
Nasir advises individuals to transition from pursuing perfection to embracing imperfection. “Understand that making mistakes and having flaws are natural aspects of being human,” she said, adding that these moments offer opportunities for growth and learning.
2. Cultivate gratitude for your body
Rather than fixating on perceived flaws, Nasir recommends cultivating gratitude toward your body. “Appreciate it for the incredible things it allows you to do and the experiences it provides,” she said.
3. Set boundaries without guilt
Shifting your mindset around setting boundaries is crucial, Nasir said. “Understand that setting limits is a healthy practice — not a rejection of others.”
She emphasised that establishing boundaries is a way of prioritising your well-being and maintaining healthy relationships.
4. Prioritise compassion over criticism
Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer to a friend facing challenges, Nasir advised. “Acknowledge that everyone experiences setbacks, and it’s okay to be gentle with yourself.”
5. Nurture a growth mindset
Cultivating a growth mindset involves seeing challenges and failures as opportunities for learning and development. “Reframe setbacks as part of the journey toward improvement rather than as reflections of personal inadequacy or failures,” Nasir said.
6. Let go of comparisons
Let go of the habit of comparing yourself to others. “Understand that everyone’s journey is unique, and comparing yourself to others only hinders your self-love,” Nasir suggested. Instead, focus on your individual path and celebrate your progress.
7. Prioritise self-reflection
Embrace self-reflection as a tool for personal growth. Instead of fearing self-exploration, Nasir recommended recognising it as an opportunity to better understand your needs, desires, and motivations. “Regular self-reflection creates a deeper connection with yourself.”
Consistently practicing these mindset shifts contributes to a healthier and more loving relationship with oneself. “Integrating them into daily life can lead to increased self-compassion, acceptance, and a more positive self-image,” Nasir concluded.
